Dating
Questions from
viewers about dating, and
Doctor Leon’s common sense advice.
Jan – I am 32 years old and still trying to change my
recognized bad behavior. I tend to destroy all of my relationships
because I assume that they will eventually end anyway. I am critical
and judgmental towards everyone and tend to spread gossip about
others. I truly believe my problem is that I am insecure and don’t
feel good about myself so I find fault in others. How can I fix this
behavior and be a better person?
Doctor Leon – It seems you have yourself accurately diagnosed.
Since most people never change, I suggest you give up attempting to
modify your behavior and try a new approach. Become rich. That way any
number of men will want to marry you and your flawed personality won’t
matter to them at all.
Or you can heed one of my standard answers that applies to 85% of the
female (assuming you’re female) e-mailers: Lose some of your excess
weight and you will find yourself feeling more secure and better about
yourself. If the “weight” advice doesn’t apply to you now, save it.
You will probably need it in the future. As for your gossiping - you
need to change your attitude on that matter. You are not spreading
gossip, you are disseminating the news.
Heather – My mom and pop won’t let me date and it is
driving me crazy. I am already 14 years old and all my friends are
dating. How will I ever get a boyfriend if I can’t go out with one?
How can I make my parents change their mind?
Doctor Leon – The fact that you refer to your father as pop
is troublesome. This indicates he drinks too much beer, or you’re
upset and confused because your mother joked with you about his
premature ejaculation problem. In any event, 14 is too young to have a
boyfriend. Ask your parents to let you go places with groups of your
friends on Friday and Saturday nights if you promise to be home by a
reasonable hour. Suggest that if you’re out of the house more, that
will give them some privacy and time to work on Pop’s problem.
Another ploy that seems to work is to have a talk with your parents
about the fact that you are beginning to feel physically attracted to
some of your girl friends. That should change their minds about
allowing you to date boys. If they won’t be reasonable, it’s just
four more years until you can move out and do what you want anyway.
Four years isn’t that long.
